Question

Interpersonal Communication Subject!

Advice Column Assignment - Guidelines

If you’ve perused a newspaper before, you’re probably familiar with the various advice columnists (“Dear Abby” comes to mind) who help out distraught individuals in managing any number of interpersonal crises in his/her life. This assignment is divided into two parts: One where you'll be assuming the role of the letter writer who presents the problem, and another where you'll play the role of the actual advice columnist and respond to letters.

Part 2 - Due Week 8

By week 6, scenarios based on the submissions of you and your classmates will be posted on Canvas. You will select 2 responses (1 from different categories) and draft a response. Your response should include the following:

• A comparison or contrast based on personal experience with the advice-seeker (in other words, establish whether or not you have experienced a similar situation, and in what way your situation might be similar or different).
• Applies at least one concept, topic, or theory from the class. Don't just list it: You'll need to describe it and provide a brief analysis or illustration as to why your selection is applicable to the situation.
• Provide a concrete (and feasible) suggestion on what the person should do to resolve their situation.

Your response to each scenario should be 200 words at a minimum, but no more than 300 words.

Friendship Scenarios

Scenario #1: A Two Way Street

A dear friend of mine has been troubling me lately. I’ve known him for years and as such, we have gotten to know each other very well. Unfortunately, he is not always the best communicator. He has a bad habit of treating himself very seriously, while not being willing to honor another’s dignity and honesty. He is someone who loves to discuss personal problems and issues, but never is very supportive.

Often times, he can weaponize information I give him and use it as a way to point out areas he thinks are wrong with me. Close friends like this one are rare, and I truly value him, but this problem in our communication has led to us becoming more distant. He don’t see each other nearly as much anymore, and when I do talk to him, I find myself watching my words very carefully. How can I promote healthy communication in this relationship and get this friend to truly understand how his words affect me? How can I promote a friendship based on respect?

Scenario #2: Greek Life, Friendship Strife

I have been friends with my best friend for about 6 years and we are very close. However, after we both went to college and after she joined a sorority, she has changed a lot. She has become someone else and she does things that I don’t agree with and hangs around with people that have become a bad influence on her. Whenever I show my concern for her and her well-being, she becomes defensive and claims that she is still the same person.

I’m not sure how to go about this issue because I don’t want to lose her as a friend and I don’t want her to think I don’t like her anymore. I am just concerned about her safety sometimes and I wish I could help her realize that she doesn’t have to do things for her social status. Should I confront her and tell her how I really feel or should I just accept her changed persona and move on?

Family Relationship Scenarios

Scenario 1: Sibling Car Troubles

Recently, my sibling’s car broke down and my family can’t afford to just buy a new car, so I got chosen to share my car with him. This means I have to work around their schedule and either lend them my car for the day so they could get to work or I drop them off if I really need my car. Sharing my car means I can’t do the things and activities I want to do in a day and, also, I can’t pick up extra shifts at work, even if I really need the money. Luckily, my partner is willing to pick me up and drive to most places, but basically I feel it isn’t my car anymore and now I have to rely on my significant other.

I am finding it very difficult and stressful to even talk to my sibling and figure out a plan for the day or week. Even writing about this is already bothering me. I’m often not told the schedule in. When I am told, it is usually the night before or on the day he has work. Because of how often this happens, every time we talk or text about it I automatically get very annoyed, angry, and, especially, stressed out. This causes me to not give a definite answer or to ignore the text so I could have time to think about it all. Even having told my sibling to let me know in advance, this behavior still occurs. Please advise me on how I could talk and work schedules with my sibling without letting my emotions take over.

Scenario 2: Breaking Family Traditions

I have two daughters in their twenties and we all love each other very much. However, when we moved immigrated to the US as immigrants, a problem occurred which negatively affected the relationship between my eldest daughter, me and my spouse. This daughter has a boyfriend of a different ethnicity. Additionally, while we are a Catholic family, the boyfriend is not. I am not happy about this, since I wish for my daughter to marry someone who shares both our ethnicity and religion.

When we brought this issue up, my daughter insisted on protecting who boyfriend and cited that every religion is good, and that every nation has good and bad people. This debate is still going on to this day. Please give me your opinion on how we can resolve this problem without harming the relationship I share with my daughter.

Please help me experts thank you.

Answer 1

Scenario 1

The best thing to do is just tell him teh same things you posted here.explain him what and how you feel.if you know about the values, respect one should have just help your friend with the same.see, everyone needs a mentor to change him or her.somethings things wont happen within.an external force is required.you be that external force.tell him what you feel and what do you expect him to do.that is it.

Scenario 2

If you are atrue friend of her, never accept tha bad things.try to make her understand.confront her the things.its easy to make one fall in trap and so difficult to protect them.as she is your close friend you should always try to protect her.talk to her.phone calls may not serve the purpose sometimes.go meet her.talk to her.tell her and make her understand things

Scenario 1

See..just keep one point in your mind HE IS YOUR SIBLING.and then talk.tell him about your timings.see and care for his timings and then plan out a schedule.he is not someone else.he is your blood.talk in a very calm way.understand his problems and timings too.then slowly u both together sort it out.blood relations cant hate each other completly.even though if they act so..there will be sparks if love inside.

Scenario 4

Make your daughter sit infront of you.talk to her.not about yhe relationship.ask her about her life and other things.sleowly shift to this topic.tell her that you can u can understand the value of love.dont scold her.then explain her about the problems she has to face later when she gets married to him.

Tell her you are never against her wish.but wish to see her future happy.tell her you again wanna see hers smiling face.tell her about your hopes.tell her that your happiness is she.

Tell her all religion are same.but the customs they share is different.tell her about the confort zone of her after marriage.dont raise your voice.tell her about your love for her.open up.dont keep anything in mind she is your daughter.she will understand.all the best.