Question

5. Select the one thing you would most like to change. Summarize why you have chosen this item to change, improve, or work on in your life. Identify the steps you will take to make this change. Identify a time frame for the change. Discuss the things in your environment that will help you make this change. Discuss the things in your environment that may hinder your change and if you think you can do something about them. Don’t forget to identify a change theory (such as Bandura) and how you see what you are trying to do fitting into that theory

Answer 1

One thing that I consider as my weakness and want to change in my life is my anger. I get angry very easily . If someone doesn't understand things on explaining repeatedly I become angry on them or if some people hinder my work or doesn't do their work properly and that affects my work I just burst out like anything . Its one of my major weakness which I desperately wants to improve and work on it because anger is unhealthy for me and others too.

As it's mentioned in the Bandura theory , I have follow the steps one by one :-

Attention

Retention

Reproduction

Motivation

As I am working , I get time in the evening only after 5pm so, I have planned to do yoga and meditation for 1hour to make myself free of all the stresses ,tensions ,workload out of my mind . Then will have some snacks as I am a foodie if I get hungry I can't control . After having snacks will go for a walk in the park nearby to my house and simultaneously listen Punjabi music because I like it the most . I will try to keep myself happy and do things which I like because once, you are happy from inside it reflects to your face and you interact with other also nicely . You get irritated less and gain more patience.

I have concentrate more on the scenarios that make me angry and work on it like whenever I get angry in the workplace I have planned to do chantering OM to control myself and deviate my attention to some other thing . Once I get control of my anger by all the measures mentioned above the next step is to retain it means to maintain the consistency . This is the most critical part - I should be well prepared to manage all the irritating factors and just take useless things from one ear and leave it from other ear without thinking about it more and more .

Once I learn to retain my new behaviour my next step is to reproduce ,to reproduce a new individual in myself who left the anger in the past and has now evolved as a new person who have control over his Unhealthy behaviour . Next step is to be motivated always to maintain the new behaviour . So,that you don't go back to the past and it will be just wastage of the hardships done till now . To be motivated I should be always keep in my mind that how badly anger affects our health so that when ever I start to get angry I stop for the sake of my health .

We can't change our behaviour in just a day or month it will take time and experience and also depends on the factors that will come inbetween the process to hinder and some that enhance the learning . Some of the factors that will hinder is my change process are :-

People who don't want me to change my bad behaviour

My own unconscious mind

Factors that will help me to improve are :-

Some of the good results that I will gain after having control on my anger

The peace ,calmness while doing yoga and meditation

The green leaves , birds chirping in the park etc will help me relax and hence , help me to improve .